The Kind of Relationship You Desire
Because of the intense emotions involved at every step along the path to healing and recovery, breast cancer patients and their oncologists inevitably will establish a strong relationship. Of course there is no guarantee this will be a good relationship, and that is why it is critically important to know just what it is that you are looking for in a doctor. Do you want someone who will be warm and empathic, who will be there giving you emotional support and even holding your hand when it all gets to be too much to handle? Or, do you prefer someone who is more businesslike and professional, someone who is knowledgeable about what they do and always confident in their approach and advice? Breast cancer patients tend to be split right down the middle when it comes to this question, and thankfully it is not hard to find oncologists who fit both descriptions. Of course if you could find someone who was a combination of both, he or she might be the most ideal candidate of all.
No matter what kind of doctor you prefer, however, it is always vitally important that they are willing to communicate openly with you and to answer all of your questions. You do not want an oncologist who is always convinced he knows what is best for you, and will try to talk you out of anything he doesn’t agree with. In short, your partnership with your oncologist, just like any other relationship, should allow both parties to communicate freely and honestly, but always with mutual respect.
Putting Your Life in Someone Else’s Hands
Your selection of an oncologist to treat your breast cancer is not a decision to be taken lightly. In fact, it would be a good idea to bring those closest to you along when you meet prospective doctors, so that you can all share your impressions afterwards. But the final call must be your own, and you should only make your selection when you are sure your chosen oncologist is ready and prepared to give you everything that you need, as a unique and individual person. No one is ever “just another patient,” and any doctor you choose needs to demonstrate to you that he understands this very important fact.


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